It is well known that communication is not about what you are trying to convey, yet all about how it is received. This puts us in a predicament of needing to consider not only what we are trying to communicate or how we want to communicate but more importantly who are we communicating with.
With the holidays come gatherings both social and work related. So we thought we would share a few quick tips on how to enjoy successful communication with family, friends, strangers and coworkers.
“Music is the greatest communication in the world. Even if people don’t understand the language that you’re singing in, they still know good music when they hear it.” -Lou Rawls
The OM Shoppe was built on the concept of vibrational medicine. Communication is first an energetic exchange between ourselves and another or group. Perhaps you have experienced someone walking in a room or onto a stage and their presence changes the vibe of the room. We can even tell when someone is smiling over the phone. We are in a constant state of vibration as are all things and people around us.
Self Silence: Start by grounding your personal energy first. Before you enter a gathering or visit with friends and family do your own work first. A quick tip to ground your energy and quiet your mind is to simply breathe. Consider using the dragon technique, breathe in deeply through one nostril while covering the other, release to expel the breathe for 5-10 times then alternate nostrils. Check in with yourself and if necessary repeat. This simple techniques activates our parasympathetic nervous system and helps to release feel good hormones that move us into a more relaxed state.
The best way to predict the future is to create it. So before you enter into conversations, parties or gatherings decide how you want to be perceived. Ask yourself, How do I want to leave others feeling? What is the highest intent in my communication? Take a few moments to image the situation that way. In other words live it in your imagination first, this greatly improves the chances of actually experiencing it that way.
Monitor body language before beginning or as you are starting to communicate with someone. You don’t need to be a body language expert to know when someone is closing off. Notice the direction of their feet are they pointed towards or away from you? Are their arms crossed or comfortable by their sides? Notice their eyes are they darting away or are they making good solid eye contact with you?
Be open-minded to others. This doesn’t mean you have to acquiesce to their views or opinions. It does allow you to remain curious and non-judgmental as to another’s opinion or view point. It is not necessary to convince someone to see things the same way you do. If you here something you just don’t agree with you might consider some of the following phrases, “that’s an interesting point,” or, “I never considered it that way before and thank you for sharing your thoughts with me.”
As a Clinical Hypnotherapist I know the subconscious mind develops by the age of 6 or 7 years old. This means most people are still working within their early belief patterns that were formed so long ago. Consider seeing everyone you speak with through more compassion, acceptance and unconditional love. It was once said by Ram Dass that, “We are all just walking each other home.” This is truly a beautiful sentiment and one to keep in mind, especially when you are with the most cantankerous of your family, peers or friends.
This upcoming year we hope you will consider ways to enjoy more fluid and productive communication. After all, most arguments and disagreements are the after effect of miscommunication. Assumptions, email & texting, lack of listening and hasty communication are the typical culprits that lead to discourse.
Be on the lookout for these pitfalls, practice the techniques above and enjoy better and deeper connections and communication this year.
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